When I Needed It Most

It had never really been a matter of if, but always when. As far back as June, our district gathered a committee of educators to create a plan for virtual learning that would greatly improve on our efforts from the spring. This plan was continually evolving as new technologies were introduced and ideas came to mind that would streamline the student process in ways that didn’t even exist a mere months ago.

Even once in-person learning began in the fall, we never lost sight of the virtual plan. It didn’t just loom in the backs of our minds, our administrative team kept us tweaking it, making modifications that would help teachers, parents and students navigate a sudden shift in the learning environment from school to home.

Teachers were also required to complete significant technology training, all geared and focused on virtual learning models and programs that would help us provide more engaging and robust learning over the internet. There was significant grumbling about the training at the time. It was hard to see the purpose when we had a classroom of students and we didn’t have devices in hand for the students to even utilize should we make a virtual shift.

Despite all the planning, training and preparations, however, when the decision to go virtual for just a handful of days came, it felt fast and unexpected to many. As is often the case when change rears its ugly head, many staff escalated into panic mode. There were tears, and arguments. There was significant complaining in the hallways and behind closed doors.

And while it might have felt harried and chaotic, there was a plan and people to help implement that plan. Everyone stepped up. Parapros and Title 1 staff jumped in to help classroom teachers get all the necessary supplies in each and every backpack. Copies were made, lessons adapted and devices and all their accoutrements were unplugged, bundled up and loaded up with students. Teachers ensured each child had log ins, workbooks and even brand new social studies books that hadn’t even been numbered for each classroom yet. Resource room teachers ran through the building to find extra textbooks with just minutes before the last bell rang and students loaded up in buses.

It was right after that bell, right after I bustled my students out the classroom door with bags that weighed half their body weight and instructions still ringing in their ears about Monday’s virtual learning plan that I saw the note. Sitting on the table outside my classroom was a handwritten but photocopied note in cursive script that only grandmothers use now.

I sat in my classroom and cried. This note, while unsigned, most certainly came from a woman on our staff who works as a paraprofessional. Photocopied for each and every staff member in the building, this woman took the time to encourage us and to lift us up. Here were all were, scavenging about for all the things each student needed; venting about how hard virtual lessons would be; complaining about the fact that the shut down was caused by factors outside of the school and not inside; and yet, this woman, who surely grew up in much “simpler” times – who could probably never have imagined school or learning to look like it does now, was the first one to offer up a voice of hope. This woman, who could be at home, retired, but chooses to spend her days with the kids was calm, collected and ready to provide support in any way she knew how.

I wasn’t scared of virtual learning. I wasn’t panicked about what Monday would bring. My math lessons would go on pretty much the same as they had before. But in a year when I feel more disconnected from my class than ever – a year where we can’t hug, can’t stay in close contact, can’t even see each other smile behind all the masks – her reminder that these students still saw me as their leader and that all the things these students were experiencing were amazing life lessons if we embraced them as such – her note, struck a much needed chord in my soul.

I am not a hero. I am a teacher. Adapting to the changing environment is part of life and part of being a human on this planet right now. It’s what every single one of us is doing. No one has been untouched by this virus. No, I am not a hero for teaching under these circumstances. But if I can teach my little corner of the world, embodied in these ten year old bodies that we can adapt, we can embrace change with open hearts and minds and positive attitudes; if I can show, model and convince these children that life is going to be this way even when there isn’t a global pandemic going on, that change and adversity are an integral and necessary part of life; if I can help just one child to feel strong in the face of adversity, then maybe, just maybe I have done my job. But for this woman, this author of this note, she has already done that. She has empowered, she has encouraged, she has reminded us of the larger picture. She, with one quickly written and copied note, spread a sense of purpose and calm. She may not be a teacher by profession, but today she was most certainly, my hero.

Mr. Clark

I’ve hit a professional slump. Teaching has always been exhausting, but the last few years it’s taken more out of me than I think I have left to give. Of course, a global pandemic hasn’t helped. Not only is it very hard to job search when the entire educational world is turned upside-down, but it’s hard to love your job when your classroom has been redesigned with safety, not learning, in mind. Perhaps the worst of it this year is that I am only teaching math. I have no passion for math. Zero. Zilch. Nada. Nothing. It’s not that I can’t teach it, or that I’m not teaching it well, it’s just that it does nothing for my heart. It brings me absolutely no joy. I don’t get nearly as excited about numbers as I do books or words. I don’t feel the same thrill when a student masters a math skill as I do when they come running up to tell me about a book they are reading or a cool word they found. I might be saving a lot of money not buying classroom books and mentor texts from Amazon, but I don’t get excited about the lessons I am designing. And while the kids still think I’m crazy funny, and while I still over-animate my lessons and my examples to make it as engaging as possible, it is sucking the ever-lasting life out of me to do so. Depleted doesn’t even begin to describe it.

Because of that, or in addition to that, or as a result of that, or with no connection to that whatsoever, I’m not sleeping well. I started taking melatonin awhile back and I think even those quick-dissolving pills have given up on me. And then, just because it’s my sob story, this week is conferences, which I normally LOVE with an unnatural fondness, but this year, conferences are virtual. And only ten minutes long. And only for those we really need to see, which means behavior or academic issues. And as if I wasn’t already scrounging to find joy within these four walls, well, there’s little be had with long days of only discussing the challenges of learning.

All of this is to say, I wasn’t in the mood today. I’m tired. I’m bone tired. And today I was ready to phone it in. I didn’t think I could possibly muster the energy to engage myself in the lessons, more or less an audience of socially-distanced and masked ten year olds. Even as I logged in for our virtual morning announcements, I wanted to just crawl under my desk and sleep.

Waiting for our principal on the school-wide Google Meet, I half-heartedly chuckled at the projection screen. Most teachers have their webcams turned off for the announcements, knowing how much students love to be on camera, we all try to keep the focus on the words of wisdom our school leader shares each day. One teacher had his webcam on but upside down, creating a gravity-defying effect of his classroom for all of us to see. But then there was Mr. Clark. With a baby in his arms and two beautiful blonde children by his side.

Mr. Clark, who works in our building with students who struggle to manage their behavior at times – I can’t even say he “works”, though, as he makes it seem like his dream job. He’s always happier than seems reasonable. His pep talks aren’t just limited to students, either. He’s listened to me vent and helped me problem solve with the patience of Job. And he never, ever loses his cool. Quarantined at home, with three little ones and a wife who is also trying to remote teach, here was Mr. Clark, with children dangling from every appendage, taking over the morning announcements while our principal was in a meeting.

They all introduced themselves. Mr. Clark, then little Mr. Clark, then Miss Clark, the beautiful daughter and then an absolutely adorable “hi” from the baby on his hip. They all wished a happy birthday to one of our students and then led our entire building in the pledge – all from his living room, literally deep in the throes of being a father and an educator in the most symbiotic way.

And with that, I was ready. If Mr. Clark can smile and laugh at 9am while creatively occupying three young children while still managing to fulfill the needs we have for him here, then I can find the passion to teach math today.

And I did.

Thank you, Mr. Clark. And little Mr. Clark. And Miss Clark. And the baby who said, “hi”. You might think your morning announcement was “no big thing”, and all told it probably didn’t last more than two minutes, but today, on a day when I really needed it, I, and therefore all the students I taught today, was very blessed by that little thing.

Across and Down

At some point, years and years ago, during a vacation at my dad’s, a tradition began. A crossword puzzle was copied and handed to me, in addition to the copy my dad worked off of, and the original that my second mom completed each morning. They both were much faster and more accurate than I, but I readily justified that advantage to retirement and practice. The competition was friendly and perhaps more self-imposed than anything between the three of us (although it’s hard to discredit much of anything my family does as not having some kind of competitive edge to it.)

My memories of the crossword are deeply connected to the glide of a wicker couch, the sunrise over the lake and the quiet of the house in early morning hours. Eventually, at my dad’s, others would arise and sit and visit. While a gallant effort was initially made, the puzzle usually lasted me much of the day, with lingering questions and changes being made well into the afternoon and evening.

Eventually, the conversation would start. “Were you as baffled by 12 down as I was?” “I never would have gotten 16 across if I hadn’t gotten most of the letters from the intersecting words to help me out.” “I still can’t get 36 across, but don’t tell me. I haven’t given up yet!”

My dad would even print out the puzzle for me on the day I left Tennessee to head back home. Driving the long hours back home I would ponder clues and try out my answers, the puzzle keeping me entertained during a very long and otherwise uneventful drive. Years later, in fact, I found my half-completed crosswords tucked into the Rand McNally map under the back seat of my car. I couldn’t help but smile.

Just recently, my second mom inquired if I’d like her to send me the daily puzzles by email. I had just started back to in-person teaching after months of COVID-related virtual lessons. It took me a few weeks before I even responded, but I eventually accepted, looking forward to a connection with my family that I don’t see as often as I’d like – a word bridge across 500 miles.

Now, each day, during the only 15 minutes of “break” time I have during the entire day of teaching, I sit in the empty teacher’s lounge and work on the daily puzzle. I don’t think about the math lesson I’m teaching four times that day.

I don’t think about all the reading or writing lessons I wish I were teaching instead. I don’t think about all the ways I miss having my own classroom of kids instead of rotating through several. I don’t even think about the pandemic. I take off my mask, pick up my favorite 0.9 leaded mechanical pencil, and I think about what river in Venezuela has an ‘n’ in the middle (I still don’t know), or what is a three letter word for a diving bird (a clue I only solved by using the intersecting letters). I think about my dad and my second mom. How envious I am of their retirement years. How envious I am of my second mom’s memory, especially for books and movies and words. Especially words. I think about my dad’s methodical approach, not just to puzzles, but to life. How careful he is. How rarely, if ever, he needs to use an eraser. Literal or proverbial.

I am grateful for those very fast 15 minutes, when I never get the puzzle done, nor entirely right, but for one far-too-short portion of my day, I find joy in a puzzle, joy in a memory, joy in NOT thinking. And any way you look at it, across, down or sideways, I am blessed by this little thing.

I Shouldn’t Be This Fortunate

I went from fine to miserable in the course of an afternoon. The discomfort turned a haircut into an endurance test and by the time I arrived home I was ready for relief. I had researched my symptoms while waiting at the salon and if I was right about the diagnosis, I would need an antibiotic to rid myself of the problem. With Urgent Care a 20 minute drive and an unknown wait-to-be-seen away, The Mister urged me to try Dr. on Demand, an app he had recently used to help with his several-times-a-year bout with poison ivy.

The call lasted three minutes and fifteen seconds. The doctor listened as I described my symptoms and agreed that I was more than likely suffering from a UTI. He prescribed an antibiotic, instructed me to take it twice a day for five days and said it would probably be ready at my pharmacy in about an hour.

Forty-five minutes and $6 later, I had my prescription in hand. I took the first pill before bed, greatly concerned with how to get through a day of teaching, especially during COVID times when I am not in my own classroom all day, but instead moving from room to room, eating lunch with the students and with very little time to use a restroom.

By morning, however, I felt 95% better. 95%. After just one little pill. Just one.

I had said many prayers that day and even that night when I took the first pill, but the following morning, when I was amazed at the speed of relief, I said another. Knowing from my research how common UTI’s are, and how they will not go away unless treated, and that they can develop into far worse issues, I added more gratitude to my prayer than I had originally felt.

Within hours of my first symptom, for just $6 and the time it took to make a three-minute phone call, I was cured. As I continued to take the rest of the medicine over the next five days I continued to marvel at how amazing the science, the research, and the development of pharmaceuticals such as this antibiotic are. But I found myself uncomfortable in a new way – uncomfortable knowing how many millions of people, mainly women, suffer through this very same thing, with no medical care available, no antibiotic a short drive away. No relief in sight. Ever. Simple, fast, curable and cheap aren’t any part of the vocabulary of millions when it comes to health care.

It makes me wonder why I should be so fortunate. Just because of the job I have? Just because of where I live? We should only provide relief to those who can pay for it, or those who happen to live in America? That doesn’t sit well with me at all.

So, while I will count my blessings today that I feel much better, in my soul, I do not feel better at all. We should all be blessed by such a little thing.

The Price of a Memory

It didn’t take long for my seven feathered girls to start laying more eggs than we could consume. Ruby lays smaller eggs, so we save those for our own consumption and the rest head out the door. I took a dozen to school for a co-worker and shortly thereafter had an email from another teacher asking if she could buy a dozen. I told her I’d bring them in the morning and stopped by her classroom on the way to my own with a carton of beautifully colored eggs.

She took the carton, opened it and exclaimed, “Oh! Green ones!! My mother used to have chickens that laid green eggs! What fun it will be to have these again!” She set the eggs down and reached in her purse for the small total I charge for eggs.

I said she needn’t bother with a payment today. She assured me she was eager and quite happy to do so. Knowing her mother passed away just a year ago, I explained that a memory of a mother shouldn’t come with a price tag and today I was just so thrilled to be able to provide her with a little reminder of her mom.

While my mom grew up on a farm, I have no memory of her with chickens. But I have endless memories of her generosity. As I left the classroom of my co-worker as she continued to admire the colorful eggs, I knew we were both blessed today with memories of our moms and the legacies they left for us to carry forth.

Jedi Fun

I didn’t even know it was there. James saw it first as I pulled into the drive on a Friday after school.

“What’s up with Yoda?”

I had no idea what he was talking about. After I parked the car in the garage, he asked again and told me to look at the grill on the Jeep.

Lo and behold, Yoda.

The truth is, I have no idea how he got there. I had to assume someone at school put him there. I sent an email.

“The yoda on my Jeep, cute he is. What jedi responsible for this?”

No one came forth.

Apparently another vehicle had been given a tail, but that’s as far as the trail of leads went.

Which actually makes it even more fun.

I was at an office the other day and as I left, the receptionist asked if that was my Jeep parked outside that she could see through the front windows. I said yes. She said, “We were all just admiring Yoda!” I had to tell her the story of the unknown origins and she said that was awesome and that they should do that to someone’s car there.

Yoda. Spreading joy from grill of a Jeep, he is.

The Trailer

He will not go. No amount of corn, sweet grain, fresh grass or coaxing will make him take one step any closer to that trailer.

Samson, our beautiful bull, has outgrown our farm. While we love him and the calves he sired, we worry about his aggression. And the cost of his healthy appetite.

The Mister has tried twice, in vain, to get Samson loaded in a trailer. It’s heartbreaking for all, as we really don’t want to see him go, and we know as we coax and plead with him that the end game isn’t a pleasant outcome for the bull in question. We aren’t exactly taking him to some other farm.

He will not go in the trailer because it is unfamiliar. He has only ever been in a trailer once. He did not go willingly then, either, and he was only five months old at the time. The memory of wrangling him with great difficultly when he was much younger leaves us certain there is only so much coaxing we can safely do at this point.

The unfamiliar leads to fear. Samson was calm and somewhat cooperative as we got him in the shelter several yards from the trailer. But when we were finally able to get him close, he was no longer in a cooperating mood. His whole demeanor changed in the vicinity of the unknown metal space. Mine, too. He is afraid of the big metal box. He has no idea what it is or why it is suddenly at the gate and he is, quite naturally fearful of the addition.

The fear led to destruction. It didn’t take long at all for things to escalate from calm to violent. He jumped the gate, breaking the wood barriers as he did so, just to get away from the unknown trailer. Despite standing outside the electric fence, he scared me so badly I fought back my tears and had to stand with hands on knees to even catch my breath and slow my heart.

What Samson needs, is time. Time to experience the trailer’s presence on his own terms. Time to acclimate to the addition. Time to investigate at his own pace, in his own way. Time to see the trailer as a treat-dispenser and not the transport to the end times as it actually is. Unfortunately, we don’t own the trailer and so time is something we cannot literally and figuratively afford to give him.

The idea of something unfamiliar leading to violence is not foreign to those of the human species, either. We all know how the unknown can lead to fear, hatred and destruction as well. It’s been all over the news. It’s been all over the country. Heck, I jumped sky high and screamed like the proverbial girl when a walking stick landed on my shoulder the other day. A walking stick bug. It wasn’t going to hurt me in the least, but it wasn’t something I was familiar with and so I reacted with fear and dashed the poor, harmless creature to the ground.

Perhaps what we could all use a little more of in this world is time with the unfamiliar. We need to build trust with the things we do not know. We need to investigate, familiarize and experience the unknowns in our lives in a calm, safe environment. This takes time. And it feels to me, as a nation, we are running out of time. We are jumping the gates, destroying the barriers and turning to violence to avoid the unknowns and unfamiliars.

In the case of our country, though, these unknowns and unfamiliars are often just people. People. Human beings. People with hearts and souls and dreams and wishes and families and jobs and fears just like us. People.

What would happen if we all took the time to get to know someone unfamiliar, someone different than us? If we were to pause in between facing an unknown and reacting with fear to take time to breathe, listen, love and learn, — ah, what a world we might live in.

Samson remains in the pasture. Blissfully unaware of the endgame he avoided by his refusal to load. He reminds me. He reminds me of the dangers of what can happen when we let the fear turn to hatred and destruction. He reminds me of how quickly we can turn away from something unknown out of nothing more than fear, and how we can be destructive in our nature, our words, our beliefs because we let that fear consume us. He reminds me to take the time. People deserve our time. Our country, I fear, depends on it.

Blessed Little Things

I’ve been here before. The nudge is familiar and yet indiscernible. I need a change, a move, a side-step from my current path onto a new one. The cliche poem by Robert Frost is not lost on me – two roads diverging and all – but it is of no help.

My career needs a turn. I’ve felt this coming for awhile. I’m taking steps there, but it’s a tough time to jump ship – or maybe it’s the perfect time to jump ship. I don’t know. I am not brave enough to leap it would seem.

Home is wonderful, blessed, comfortable, but lacking purpose. Maybe it’s the question all empty-nesters face: What am I going to do now? Maybe it’s my age that makes me wonder what it is exactly that I’ve been doing all this time. But the question that wakes me in the night and keeps me from falling back into slumber – What is it that I am supposed to be doing? – just keeps vibrating in my heart, resonating in my soul, pushing me to beg for answers and call it prayer. Truth is, I do not know.

In search of answers, I read an article recently that suggested asking what my childhood self would have predicted I’d be doing now. She would have said I’d be an author, certainly. Much as my mother once said. My mother also said I’d perhaps be a teacher (which I am) or a lawyer (which I’ll never be, unless you count being a mother, which, I technically think involves a LOT of lawyering.)

So I am here. To write. To put thought to metaphorical paper. To try to examine where I’ve been, what I’m doing and where I am headed. I’ll admit, I don’t have big ambitions. My 8 year-old self would be perfectly happy if I just wrote a story for the sake of writing, not because anyone would ever actually read it. Although, she’d like a reader, too.

In another, similar exercise to figure out what I should be doing, I was encouraged to write down the moments in each day that brought me joy. What I learned from that process was that, in addition to knowing I need to write, I often find joy in the smallest of God’s creation. Sure, I will marvel at the majesty of the mountains. Certainly, I have stood in awe of the ocean. No doubt, I will be humbled by the redwoods. But day-to-day, I am awed, and humbled and marvel at the smallest of things. A leaf, an egg, a cool rock. Reminders that as small as I am in this universe, I, too, have beauty and purpose and gifts to share.

Join me, on my reflective journey. About life, about love, about gratitude in all the blessed little things that surround us.

Chores

To some, it would be easily described as a chore.  But the mere connotation of something obligatory, and worse yet, something dreaded is so far from my experience that I can only call it a chore in jest.  I stop by the coop with a breakfast of oats and mealworms for the girls.  It’s yet too early for the automatic door to have opened, but as I talk with the girls from outside the coop, I hear them jump off the roosting bars and even peck at the door.  Knowing the eager parade of feathered excitement that awaits, I happily open the door myself, and chuckle at the onslaught of chatter and energy from seven crazy chickens.  The oats and mealworms are greatly appreciated and quickly devoured.  I open the window on the coop from inside the run before making my departure to go around to the coop and the remaining windows. 

When I step inside the coop, Della comes in from the chicken door.  Abandoning the oats and mealworms is no small deal, and I know even more certainly that I have in the past few days that she is getting close to laying her first egg.  She jumps up on the small step stool I have in front of the nesting boxes and begins her quiet cooing.  It delights my soul in ways I cannot describe.  I know it makes me sound truly crazy, but it truly feels like a sweet conversation.  I give her a little pep talk and she hops up into the nesting boxes.  She’s done this before, but today she settles in more than previously and I know for certain today there will be an egg.  There is something very serene about a hen in a nest.  They are so quiet and still I often think they might be praying.  I relate more than I care to admit; enjoying my own solitude and quiet whenever I can and understanding the satisfaction that comes from doing even just one thing well. 

I have to leave for work before I see the results of her efforts.  But I carry this little moment, this simple peace, with me throughout my day.  

They say God speaks to us.  If only we are still enough to listen.  I hear Him.  His creation speaks to me.  In the soft cooing reassurances of a bird, I hear Him say, “Be.Here.Now.”  And I stand, in the coop, with Della and my Lord as company.  It is well with my soul. 

The First Egg

We’ve known Ruby was giving serious thought to laying her first egg a couple weeks ago.  She went into the coop and cackled and fretted about.  Soon, we thought.  Soon.

But waiting on your first chicken to lay her first egg is a lot like the proverbial water pot. 

But this morning, I went out to spend some time with the girls.  I took out some oats and meal worms, a favorite breakfast of the flock.  Ruby had her share but then wandered off into the coop on her own again.  I heard her make some soft coo’s, but then she’d come right back out.  She jumped up on the bale of straw we have in the coop and started scratching around on it.  I thought we might be nearer the egg-laying event than we had been, so I went over to gently discourage her from using the straw bale as nesting grounds.  Ruby jumped off as I approached, but then came right up by me once I sat down.  Ruby is friendly, but not usually in a sit-right-next-to-you kind of a way, especially if you don’t have treats with you. 

I smoothed her feathers and talked to her a bit, but when she snuck in behind my back, between me and the wall and started scratching the straw bale again, I knew she was really getting serious.  I went out the chicken run and into the coop (I have to go out and around, chickies have their own little door).  I called to the chickens and sure enough, the whole flock comes into the coop to see what’s going on.  Ruby came right to me and I gently picked her up and put her in the nesting box.  She immediately took to it and started scratching around, nesting.  I was elated!!

As she scratched and futzed and got herself settled, the rest of the flock took it as their cue to leave and headed back into the run.  While Ruby rearranged the wood chips to her liking and settled and resettled herself, the girls took turns peeking in the chicken door to see if everything was okay.  Della even “tiptoed” in and across the floor of the coop to check on Ruby!  April was bold enough to get right up to the nesting box to see what was going on in there. 

Ruby just sat.

Every now and then she would emit a soft cluck, but otherwise, she just sat and quietly moved wood chips with her beak to make the perfect nest.

After a half hour or so of this, she stood up and began to cluck VERY LOUDLY.  I thought she was announcing to the world that she had just laid her first egg, but I’ll admit, I hadn’t seen anything that made me think an egg had actually been laid.  Her clucking was very entertaining but what I loved most were the response clucks from the girls in the run.  It was like a support group of girlfriends!!  “Way to go, Ruby!” you could almost hear them saying.  (Or at least that’s what I heard, but I am a crazy chicken lady.) 

After a few minutes of crazy clucking, Ruby hopped off the nesting box, pecked around at the floor of the coop and then went out into the run.

Only when she was out did I peek into the nesting box. 

NO EGG.  Nothing.  Nada. 

I went to the window and looked out into the run.  Ruby was wandering around, stopping to peck at the pieces of asparagus the flock had abandoned from last night’s snack.  She got a drink of water and then, right in the middle of the run, she squatted down and popped out an egg!

I RAN out the coop, into the run and snatched up the egg just as four other chickens were descending upon it, Della ready to give it a good peck.  The egg was perfect.  It wasn’t soft shelled, which I had been expecting for a first egg! 

I guess Ruby just wanted me to GET OUT OF THE COOP so she could lay her egg in peace.  I hope tomorrow, or whenever she lays again, she will stay in the nesting box for the duration of the process!!  And if I happen to be out there, I promise to stay in the run and just watch from the window.  Unless it’s a whole ‘nother chicken.  I can’t make promises if it’s someone else’s first egg!